Hello everyone, I am so happy that you are all here and have taken the time to read my post. I have been trying to find ways to help create a more meaningful life that does not revolve around materialistic things but rather meaningful actions. On this journey, I have learned so many things and to make my life more meaningful, I have decided to create a blog to share what I have learned with the rest of the world.
To start, I guess you may be wondering why should I be listening to this person, and why is he giving me advice on life? Well the best answer to that is I am not the best person for this but I am a person who wants to share and is hoping to help at least one person through these posts as well as learn new things on the way. Also my experience may not be the same as yours and I would love to hear your point of view. Especially, if what I am saying may not match with your experiences.
So here is a little synopsis of how this all began and why I started looking into a more spiritual lifestyle. This goes back to 2018, when I finished university and I was so happy to be done with school and could FINALLY start my life. That soon changed as the ‘REAL WORLD’ that everyone calls it is not what I had pictured it to be. It soon hit me that I was not where I wanted to be 6 months into graduating school. I had no job lined up, my relationship with my girlfriend fell apart and suddenly I was falling into a pit of depression and anxiety. The thing about depression is that you do not notice it until it is pointed out to you or you make the effort to notice it. Due to circumstance, I was brought to notice it because of a close friend that was going through a similar case. At first, I was in denial but soon after I realized that I was living a life that was extremely negative for my mindset with negative self talk and just a full on bad attitude towards life.
However, soon after I came to terms with my situation and decided I had to make a change. But instead of tackling the real problem I focused on tackling my mental frustration by working out. (like most guys would) I had become overweight so I joined the gym. Worked out, lost the weight and started to feel better. However, I plateaued and just stopped going as i did not feel the need to be there. At this point, I had a job so I was making an income and was able to support my lifestyle. However, I was still unhappy and to make matters worse I put more time into work and less time into relationships. That did not last very long as a I had found my self single with not many friends that I could turn to. The positive thing in my head was that I had paid off my student debt within the year. Even with that heavy burden gone my happiness did not come back.
Pondering on where I had gone wrong and looking back at it now the answer was pretty straight forward. I forgot how to have fun and live life for myself rather than just living to work. Thankfully the searching brought me to research about spirituality and mindfulness. That’s where the new lifestyle comes into play. I slowly started to integrate the new things I was learning through Youtube, podcasts, articles, self help books and conversations with others that were on a journey of bettering themselves mentally.
Of all the things I learned the BEST one was this and it was SO SIMPLE!
Such an easy thing you must be thinking like, HELLO I do not need to be reminded to keep breathing. BUT honestly hear me out, I swear I am not crazy. What I came to realize was that all of our emotions effected our breathing. When were sad we sigh, when were angry our breathing picks up when were tired we have heavier breaths. A lot of us do not even realize the change in our breaths when were feeling these emotions. Yet, this impacts us so much and feeds into the way we feel. SO for all my readers out there if you are going to take anything away please focus on your breathe.
To help you with this I want you to do this exercise right now, close your eyes and take 10 breaths of air at a calm and relaxing pace. (I will wait)
From now on, I want you to make the conscious effort to control you breath and to breathe how you had just done in the exercise. If you catch your self sighing CLOSE YOUR mouth and pull the sigh back. If you are angry CLOSE your mouth and do not let those quick pockets of air out . Relax your breath and see how you feel afterwards. Obviously this will not happen over night but if you are continuously making the effort it will slowly start to become second nature. Try it out and I would love to hear back from you about this.
Thank you for reading this!
Stay happy, Stay healthy and Keep breathing