How many times have you heard someone tell you that they are SO STRESSED or Life is so hard and then you come home completely drained? I won’t lie I am guilty of this to and it was one of the most frustrating things to think about because there was so much pressure that was coming from myself more than anybody else. As mentioned in my beginning page I had spent a big portion of 2018 feeling sorry and frustrated because things were not working out the way I thought it would. The way I got through this was realizing that we are only as stressed as we tell ourselves we are. For example, if you saw a massive pile of work on your desk that was suppose to be done by you and you only, I am pretty sure you would say “UGHHHHHHHH” or “OMG I am gonna die there is so much to do” or “can it just be Friday already”.
One thing I’ve noticed is we begin to stress ourselves out before we even start putting in the work. BUT, truthfully speaking you can only do as much as you can do. So why not just do AS MUCH AS YOU CAN and then go and enjoy the rest of your day without telling yourself how swamped you are and how much you need to get done. Other examples of where we add additional stress and frustration upon ourselves is when were driving and somebody upsets us or we are rushing to get off of the bus so we can catch the train or make an appointment or we get into an argument with someone. What if I told you that you did not need to be the first one off the bus or you do not need to honk at the person and yell at them. The reason is that rushing off the bus saves you maybe a minute maybe 2 minutes so why stress yourself out for those 2 minutes. Or why yell at that person who most likely cannot hear you and lets not argue with the person who does not want to listen to what you have to say anyways.
We should be saving that energy so our mind can redirect that towards other activities in your day. The more energy that is spent on unnecessary stresses the less energy you will have for the rest of the day. Remember that our minds and body can only take so much. So I think that for our own sake we should try to be more mindful of what we are stressing out about and really understand why we are stressing on those things.
Lets put into perspective the outcomes that can happen. You are not able to complete the giant pile of work you got from your boss and you might lose your job, but then did you really want it if you were put in such a position that killed your sanity. (a good workplace would understand and tell you to just finish it up tomorrow) If you are a few minutes late for an appointment I am sure that they can understand that public transit is an interesting place or there was traffic.(you could just leave a little earlier to give yourself those few extra minutes but again it is not the end of the world) Understand that setting that mindset of you will get to the place that you need to get to or you will complete that task that needs to be done because you are there and present. The only thing that you need to do is start doing what needs to be done and then afterwards what happens will happen. SO STOP OVERTHINKING IT!
So the next time you are thinking of sighing and saying how stressed you are I would just like you to reflect on the day and see what stressed you out. Then ask yourself why were you stressed from that event in your day? Afterwards try and see of all the events that happened in that day, which ones could you have handled differently and REALLY stressed on less.
As always thank you for reading I hope this helped you a little. Please leave a comment letting me know how it goes.
Stay happy, Stay healthy and Keep breathing